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Recommended Reading – Female Chauvinist Pigs: Women and the Rise of Raunch Culture

November 1st, 2011 / 1 Comment » / by Madame Katarina

“There is a widespread assumption that simply because my generation of women has the good fortune to live in a world touched by the feminist movement, that means everything we do is magically imbued  with its agenda. It doesn’t work that way. ‘Raunchy’ and ‘liberated’ are not synonyms.” – (Excerpt from Introduction)

“If Male Chauvinist Pigs were men who regarded women as pieces of meat, we would outdo them and be Female Chaunvinst Pigs: women who make sex objects of other women and of ourselves.“

I recently finished reading this book, which was recommended to me by a talented genius girl friend a few years ago. This was back before I fully adopted the “feminist” label, but I had plenty to vent about regarding the the glaring injustices and inequality of life as a female. However, I had SO MUCH to learn about the atrocities still occurring daily in different cultures; in my own culture – such as the sex trafficking epidemic in the US; the vile injustices of the past (comfort stations, insane asylums, etc.); and much, much, much, much, MUCH more.Since then, I’ve obviously made it a point to become far more informed on the extent and prevalence of degradation and abuse in the world (in everyone’s backyard, for that matter), and I’ve delved deeper and deeper into the psychology behind the injustices and attitudes that grated at me.   It wasn’t until somewhat recently that I fully learned and absorbed the definition of the phrase “raunch culture”… I wish I had known it sooner to accurately describe exactly what I’ve observed about our society since youth (and others seemed baffling-ly blind/callous to) which makes me sick and frankly, f*cking angry!

I wish I had read this book sooner to be able to give a more informed & respectable answer to my mother-in-law when I was put on the spot one night at the bar. She basically said to me, ‘Why are you a feminist? That’s old school… We don’t need that anymore… We have been empowered to dress like a slut if we want to, be in porn if we want to, etc.’ But I fumbled and gave a lame answer suggesting my concern was more about insecurity with the threat of competition… I tried to redeem my credibility later, but it’s uncertain whether that impression can be redeemed. Regardless… Would it make a difference? She is one of the very women that the book describes as feeling we are empowered because we are “sexually liberated”… Or are we?

Female Chauvinist Pigs analyzes what has lead up to the “porno-ization” of our culture; the status quo (a bit dated, c.a. 2005… there would only be a larger number and more horrific examples if it were newer); and how it impacts all of us – men, women, transgenders, lesbians, teens… It draws attention to the commercial push of raunch culture and the dumbing-down of ourselves and our sense of sexuality as a result. It outlines what lead to the existence of different types of feminists and why they contradict each other’s goals. It points out the distaste that women convey for  other women; the way they turn themselves into an enemy of their own gender in order to protect themselves. It of course analyzes the psychological reasoning of a female chauvinist in her justification of her lifestyle, in that she is “Uncle Tomming” it to get ahead.  It covers subjects on teen-hood which I was most definitely affected by as one, and which partially defined the course of my life thereafter: The standard expectation of girls to sexually perform without regard for their own satisfaction ; the pressure to be sexually appealing as a girl (whether you actually want sex or not) because it gauges self-worth; the desperation most girls feel to be the “hottest one” with all of the attention, and the confusion they have in defining their own sexual identity (sexy vs sexual) as they are “blitzed with cultural pressure to be hot, to seem sexy” but “have a very difficult time learning to recognize their own sexual desire”.

Here is a particularly interesting topic for Mistress Ravine’s young female audience: “In total, this country has spent nearly $1 billion on abstinence education since 1996… By any measure, the way we educate young people about sexuality is not working. We expect them to dismiss their instinctive desires and curiosities even as we bombard them with images that imply that lust is the most impressive virtue. Somehow, we expect people who are by definition immature to make sense of this contradictory mishmash. Our national approach to the prevention of sexually transmitted diseases and pregnancy is predicated on the assumption that teenagers will want so badly to maintain their purity for marriage – despite the fact that half of their parents’ marriages end in divorce – that they will ignore their own hormones, ignore the porn starts on MTV and all the blogs and blow jobs on the Internet, and do as their teachers tell them. Unsurprisingly, teenagers are not cooperating with this plan.” (Excerpt from Chapter 5, Pigs in Training)

“As of 2005, federal funding was denied to all public schools except for those advocating abstinence until marriage. Consequently, a disturbing percentage of young people are equipped with nothing but G-strings and Jenna Jameson to guide them through the roiling sea of hormones they are entering, and all of the attendant dangers of STDs and pregnancies that are its sharks.” (Excerpt from Conclusion)

There is a LARGE variety of interesting points which remain unmentioned. It presents objective viewpoints from a variety of types of people. Although the author may have her own agenda, she seemed very willing to immerse herself in situations, such which she would disagree with, in order to obtain an informed picture and viewpoints from other types of people themselves.  While the book is not ALL-encompassing, I commend Levy for managing to touch on such a variety of elements contributing to the bigger picture. It would take MANY separate books to really extensively cover the details of every subject presented. I think because this is an “easy read” that gives a well-rounded look at so many areas, it’s a good book for anyone to start with. I think it’s important that people of both genders are exposed to this sort of information; these issues cause problems for EVERYONE.

Now, if my previous articles are any indication, I enjoy being incredibly thorough in my perception on anything I am passionate about and presenting to you. This is because I often find that I focus on points neglected by others. However, I am going to restrain myself and strive to be a little more concise because I have very little time, and insisting on all articles being a vast undertaking has only hindered any updates (my last post being made a year and a half ago… ouch). Besides… why write a novel about why you should read a book?!

If you wish for further specifics on content, Amazon.com has a number of very detailed Customer Reviews that I would recommend having a peek at  (such as the highest rated one titled The Empress Has No Clothes).

Personal note on pole dancing: While I disagree with the book’s repeatedly negative portrayal of the art of pole dancing as equating to stripping and “spinning greasily around a pole”, I understand why it is referred to in this matter within the context. The book was specifically discussing scenarios in which pole dancing was being used in the stripping manner, or as part of women desperately attempting to achieve the pornified ideal by embracing the “stripper-chic” influence that has infested our culture. The majority of us would refer it as a “stripper pole”, and automatically correlate pole dancing to stripping. HOWEVER, I am a pretty conservative feminist, I loathe pornography and stripping, and yet pole is one of the many forms of dance I practice.  The book itself asks, “Why would [a woman] want to be on that pole herself?” I can assure you that while many women follow the less-than-respectable reasons in the book, those are not mine. Pole dance is similar to ballet in technique, it’s acrobatic, requires legitimate training and skill, and while embracing sexuality in it’s style it does not mean the dancer has to be sexualized/objectified. It doesn’t have to be performed as body-selling, onstage, for married men and “loophole” women… It can be reserved for the comfort of a studio or your home simply as a way to meditate, de-stress, tone up, connect with yourself, connect with your sexuality, and perform for friends or a significant other if you’d like … but it should always be primarily for oneself, and not because you’re trying to please another. The book itself discusses how many young women are clueless to their own sexuality; so if someone finds a classy studio that teaches pole dance vs. “cardio striptease”, this could be a way to help them learn to be comfortable with embracing their own body, as well as their sexuality as one of their many facets of themselves as a multi-dimensional person. (I wouldn’t be surprised if such a respectable sort of studio didn’t exist or was extremely rare when this book was written.) Lastly, I do not ‘only express my sexuality by spinning around a pole’; rather it is one of my ways express it; in this case combing two of my pre-established passions: the passion I already have for the art of dance, and my own embraced sexuality. This goes to show that while the ideas the book presents are often correct, you cannot always fit people into a specific category… For I am most definitely NOT a female chauvinist pig.

(2 votes, average: 5.00 out of 5)

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Presenting ‘Hung, Drawn & Quartered’ by Bitter Ruin – In-Depth Album Review

April 27th, 2010 / 1 Comment » / by Madame Katarina

Mistress Ravine’s Album Rank: 5/5 Who Is This Album For? EVERYONE! However, fans of The Dresden Dolls / Amanda Palmer, Emilie Autumn, Birdeatsbaby, Regina Spektor, Unwoman, Kate Nash, Lily Allen, and probably even Evanescence, are very likely to enjoy it. If fans of Angelspit are open to different genres of music, they’d also really like the album because Angelspit shares a deep disdain for the status quo. The entrancing “Hung, Drawn & Quartered” will be released on May 26, 2010, with the launch party being held the same day at The Hanbury Ballroom, Brighton. Facebook Event | Myspace Blog

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Preface

The dark cabaret band named Bitter Ruin was presented in Mistress Ravine’s Artist Spotlight in September of 2009. You may want to read that artist spotlight for an introduction to Bitter Ruin prior to reading this review.

(I’d like to note briefly that Bitter Ruin is, as I write this, opening and performing multiple shows with Amanda Palmer, and because of a volcano of all things! They had been trying to get Amanda’s attention and approval to perform with her for a while! A review of someone’s first exposure to Bitter Ruin is posted here, and it’s right on the nose… especially the part about “gooseflesh”, which they never fail to give me! Also, The Sun reviewed the duo saying that Bitter Ruin ‘stole Amanda Palmer’s thunder’! It’s no doubt that by now, Amanda has noticed them in a big way! Read that review here.)

This is a very personal, opinionated review, and it will likely come across as biased due to the fact that I’m already a fan. However, I want to assure you that my taste in music is wide and I would not exaggerate my praise, I would rate them 3/5 if they deserved it… but they don’t. I hope that you will investigate this band further and find out for yourself that they really are that phenominal.

Analysis

The masterpiece “Hung, Drawn & Quartered” was recorded in just 2-3 weeks while snowed-in with the producer of The Dresden Dolls, Jason Rubal. While credit to his work is certainly due, it is clear based on their previous releases that Bitter Ruin does not need a popular producer to be incredible. If you have listened to them previously, you’ll know that their style and talent were well-founded prior to working with him. It is wonderful that they had the opportunity to work with someone that would “get” them and allow them to remain true to themselves.

It’s almost hard to believe that this album was created in such a short timeframe. Of course, Bitter Ruin was working on the songs prior to recording, and they shared them in video diaries for fans to help in song selection beforehand! And that is one thing that stands out as special about many bands in the dark cabaret and similar genres… they want to involve and be involved with their fans. They embrace the beauty of collaborating on art and follow through with providing the feeling that their music gives, which is “you are not alone”.

While Bitter Ruin obviously enjoys entertaining, I certainly believe that entertainment is far from their only goal. It is obvious that Georgia and Ben of Bitter Ruin are passionately venting, that they have been tortured in some way. This is especially apparent to anyone who is has been hurt, is empathetic to those who have, and/or is dissatisfied with the present state of affairs. It is clear that the album will appeal to such people foremost.

I personally believe that the people who would most greatly appreciate this album are people who 1) have a lot of experience in life (not meaning a certain age necessarily), 2) are passionate, artistic, and open, 3) have musical experience and a keen ear for technique.

Some say this album is not for everyone, and that some people will feel it’s depressing, harsh or weird. Bluntly, some people don’t want to care about issues, and they are lucky enough not to have been through deep pain in life yet. It is understandable that people want to enjoy life and to be happy, but this does not mean they should shut themselves off to depressing things, or only be concerned about what’s popular to be concerned about at the moment. Besides, it is a very simple way of viewing it, as “depressing”. Like I mentioned earlier, the album and the band actually give a feeling of “you are not alone”. The music is actually uplifting to many instead of depressing, because it illustrates issues that are very real, very common, and some that are extremely ignored. Frankly, people really need to give a damn and to appreciate talent.

What I am about to say is similar to what I mentioned in the Bitter Ruin artist spotlight… At the vocal skill of a lot of the most popular music today could be sung by any one of thousands of high school students. It is catchy because of some gimmicky lyrical content, or catchy beat, but quite obviously vocally unimpressive (or even vocally repulsive). I am not so closed-minded as to hate all of this music and shun all of it, and realize that there are some amazing vocalists in popular music as well. However, I complain when people shallowly limit themselves to this, calling anything better and meaningful, “weird” or “depressing”. Also, discarding Georgia and Ben’s obvious skill and unique quality because of this simple view is a huge slap in the face. I feel that not only can these people still enjoy the big talent of these two and be entertained by this theatrical album, but that if they are exposed to this album and listen intently, they may have an epiphany. It’s possible that it will give them a different perspective and cause them to wake up to the issues of the world… be broken out of their box. You can’t ever make everyone care, and be empathetic, but there can at least be many more that do care and are open than there are now.

Anyway.. rant aside… I’ve listened to this album repeatedly, and it’s a powerful one that ran intense emotions through me. Feelings of awe and amazement, esteem for the artists, of intense joy, of agony, of hope, and of inspiration. If you want your music to make you feel, this is the album for you. (If you want your music to be a fad, I pity you, and you may look elsewhere.)

Bitter Ruin’s video below summarizes a lot of what I’ve felt and wanted to tell about them and the album, as well as expands upon some of my comments. What’s important is that I wrote about them before watching this video, and I am happy to know that I perceived them as they were trying to express. Check it out!

Track Dissection

Here, I will offer my first-hand feelings and interpretations of some of the songs for the purpose of self-expression as well as for others to later compare to. It is interesting to see how a song can personally be applied different ways in one’s life. Please do not let my interpretations prevent you from having your own! Also, please keep in mind that these are only my thoughts and feelings, and that the band may have had a completely different idea in mind when they made the song.

Track 1

The album un-apologetically begins with “Chewing Gum“, which was released on their self-titled CD as a live version. With only a brief build up from soft humming, the song quickly expresses tension and frustration with outbursts. During the song, Georgia shouts, “Get it out! Get it out! Get it out!” and the chorus harshly sings, “Mother you’re wrong, that FUCKER’S not gone he’s here in my bed dying, rotting away, just smell that decay, while you’re all asleep I’m crying“.

What I personally take from this track, especially based on the feelings and words of my friends who have these experiences, is that this person in the song is a victim of abuse. Victims often have trouble completely recovering from the mental and emotional effects of any type of abuse. They try to go on with their lives, however the effects of the abuser seem to haunt them. The person in the song sounds to me like they want to escape this haunting, and they are told they’re safe now by their mother (and possibly others), but they are still agonizing the same. They cry while others are asleep because they are expected to be fine when it’s over, and they may experience repercussions if they show otherwise. “Not again, not again, not again, I’m not broken“.

Track 2

I found that the album alternates between faster dramatic songs and slower ballads. The second track, “Soundproof Box” is incredibly beautiful and heartwrenching. If I understand correctly, Bitter Ruin actually borrowed Regina Spektor’s piano for this recording!

A literal meaning of the song can be applied to a ghost that is unable to interact with a loved one. However, an alternative take on the song brings you into the feelings of unrequited love… Imagine loving someone with all of your heart, and yet no matter what you do, there is no response to your touch, your words… possibly because they refuse to be with you, or because they have grown cold and distracted, or because they themselves are actually dead. Truly loving someone and having no control to have them is one of the most painful experiences. That’s the meaning I soak in when I listen to it, and the one that I feel is particularly saddening.

Track 3

“The Dancing Dolls of Porcelain” is my probably favorite song on the album. It is fast and ferocious! Ben and Georgia’s vocals are powerful and beautiful, they harmonize fantastically, and Ben really plays his acoustic on fire!

Anyone who has experienced the financial strain of the economy, and the crying out of the world’s condition, should be able to relate to this song and it’s passionate fury. It presents frustration and a feeling of, “WHAT THE HELL IS GOING ON?!” and the ways we are forced to live under such conditions. I fell in love with it ever since I first watched Georgia and Ben perform it on YouTube (below). It wasn’t even the official album recording, but it sounded so fucking great! I think seeing/hearing the unofficial version really helps demonstrate their vocal skills, especially Georgia’s vocal acrobatics. Watching their facial expressions when they sing it also shows the sort of acting and passion that goes into singing such theatrical music. Check out the video below, in which we get to see their silly sides, learn about the song a bit, and watch them doing a live recording of the song:

“A Brand New Me” is another slower song, and it is both desperately sad and yet empowering. I greatly admire a part of the song with Georgia showing off soprano skill and singing very high and soul-piercing notes… it sends pins and needles all over me! The way she sings “a brand new me” lower at the end of the song also sounds beautiful, and at that part I think it sounds like Christina Aguilera’s voice (which I would mean as a compliment).

Taking the song at face value, the story is a victim falsely accused of a crime, imprisoned, and the true felon eventually getting their comeuppance. Taking it this way alone is tragic.

I do not mean to sorely distort the meaning of this song, however, I could not help but apply my own deeply personal experience to the lyrics. Memories and feelings come flooding into me when I listen to this song. What it reminded me of was an anguishing relationship with someone who refuses to tell you the truth about their wrongs, leading to painful confusion and self-doubt. The song does not directly mention confusion, but it does say she “can’t sit still” during this “waiting game”. For me and anyone I’ve known in a situation of wavering trust, it drives you crazy with confusion and anxiety… until you ‘lay defeated and cry repeatedly’.

“And you can claim upon your mother’s life that you are in the clear, the jury will pin the blame on me.” Those particular lyrics really struck me, like my soul created this song, as silly as that sounds. You see, I was with a liar who promised upon his father’s life that he was not lying about doing wrong, though the details of the evidence were undeniable… And who do people like his friends and in general (“the jury”) “pin the blame on“? The “crazy” girl of course, ignoring what she’s driven crazy by. This is a very common treatment to girls in relationships. And in abusive or manipulative relationships, the women in the relationship is often blamed, and that’s what makes it even more difficult to get help. “I know that you know the lie, and I know that you know there’s details you cannot deny. So I’ll lay defeated here, and though it may take many years, you’ll come clean.” Well.. As for my story, it’s been about 5 years and he has yet to come clean as far as I know. However, shortly after that promise he made on his father’s life and his breakup with me, his father did pass away. And I did “come out the other side a brand new me“. I went on with life, and became stronger and better than I ever was. “So hide my little sheep. But do you hear me howling at the moon while you sleep? See I’m a restless soul, and I’ll creep around your house until the stories all fall out of all the closets you’ve been hoarding them in all these years.”

Track 5

“Stand to Attention” – “They are only human like you and I, so who are they to tell us who to be? And why do we follow them and cry when we stand to attention?” This song is fast and another frustration venter… I, for one, yearn burningly for a freedom from many of the responsibilities, obligations, and rules that are controlling my life. Just as Georgia mentions in the EPK video, rules are not always a bad thing. Rules are there for protection many times. However, certain rules can also be bad for you, causing undue stress, physical pain, etc. Kids think that when you become an adult you’ll be free, and while life can drastically change upon adulthood and you gain freedoms, many of us are finding that we’re just bound in another way. There are so many rules that are nitpicky, unnecessary, are there because of someone else’s failings, etc… they make life harder. The lyrics more specifically represent to me the things that we are forced to do by not rebelling, when we really would prefer to escape and hide if we had the courage. “I had a bullet, had a gun, but victimized my courage gone.” Many of us are finding that we’re too scared to try to change these things. But then there’s a part in the song that is very encouraging and sends pins through me again… “And they shot, and I hit, and things I can’t live with, all pushing me harder to grow. But had I not been through this I wouldn’t be witness to a strength many can’t claim to know.” It really is an epic song.

Track 6

Struggling to hold on to love… desperation…”I find myself wanting to scream out loud, and spurt violent outbursts resulting in fear.” When listening to “Deficiency of You” for the first time, I suggest preparing yourself if you listen to it alone, or with headphones on… Ben’s whisper is startling! What I really love about the beginning of this song is that when listening with the ear of a vocalist, I could hear Georgia using her voice in probably 20 different styles! She’s a fucking pro! On top of that, Ben’s vocals really shine in this song, he sings strongly and fluctuates fantastically. Then during the song, it’s like their voices are dancing with each other. It’s not just that they can sing and play the guitar incredibly, but they compose with such expertise as well. When the song builds up to the burst of “Come home to me! Bring back the world! Take hold of me before I am cold!” it’s incredible! I think it really draws out the feeling of desperation in this song of which the meaning is clear.

Track 7

“Limp” is a disturbing tale of suicide, first commencing in a dream, and impending in reality thereafter. I cannot say in itself any particular part of the song stands out to me as a moral of the story. However, looking at the scope of the whole album and it’s focus on various plagues of relationships, especially the negligence in the track prior, one could assume that this painful occurrence could ensue. As with all of their songs, Bitter Ruin does a marvelous job of acting by matching the style of their singing with the story, singing dreamily, softly, viciously, etc. in the appropriate parts.

Track 8

“Outrageous (Rubal Mix)” is the only song included from their last release “We’re Not Dancing”. I reviewed this track in the MR artist spotlight saying, ““Outrageous” has highly skillful and impressive vocal fluctuation from Georgia. Their name seems very fitting with this song as it comes off to me as deliciously bitter. I enjoy the sense of empowerment that she portrays at the end with lyrics such as, “He’s the one that needs to be scared”.” This version of “Outrageous” is slowed, tweaked, and polished to improve upon the already great song. I think it definitely flows better the first two times Georgia sings “Outrageous”, ascending the scales of notes instead of descending them like in the other recording, and later in the song.

This song is more likely about abuse. The lyrics in the beginning seem to emphasize the insanity it would take to understand the abuser and says that they (the presumed abuser) “are alone“. The lyrics of the chorus say “those pretty eyes can be pretty green, and see that pretty mouth can be pretty mean“, showing that as charming as this person may seem, he has issues of jealousy and verbal abuse at the least. The song really speaks for itself from there, but I’d like to share these lyrics more than I had before: “I tiptoed around you like a ballerina cause I was naive, but you made me murderous, viciousness showed itself in me. It drew out a venom I’d not known about cause he was alone. Yeah he took it out on me and I took it readily. While surviving this attack I soon learned how to battle back. And I can’t say that I know myself anymore. And I wont say that I can be repaired. But I know I know I’ve learned from the trials I was made to endure. And now he wont cross me, I’m angry and he’s the one that needs to be scared!”

“Hung, Drawn & Quartered” unfortunately ends there, at 8 tracks total. My only complaint about the album is that it’s not longer, and leaves one longing for more. Hopefully, with the release of this album and their fantastic success with touring with Amanda Palmer, that void will be fulfilled by the opportunity to see them live… only time will tell. It is clear that these are no amateurs, and they should be widely known and understood. Please keep an eye on them on their Twitter or Facebook, which they update very often, to get news as soon as possible about buying this album.

(6 votes, average: 5.00 out of 5)

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